One of the things I love about my dogs is their complete and unapologetic spontaneity. Feel like taking a nap – plop – right in the middle of a ray of sunshine. Feel like barking at thunder – let it rip. They can go from running around the yard like banshees to turning into affection lap dogs in a heartbeat. No rhyme, no reason, no explanation and no apology.
They don’t stress about anything – they just do. Oh sure, they may get a little stressed when they get busted opening the pantry or picking up a shoe. Then I get the look like, “Oh, I wasn’t supposed to do that – sorry, I’ll try to remember that” and off they go. And we both know they have no intention of remembering anything.
I think sometimes we look at each other in total amazement. I look at them envious of their carefree attitude and they look at me with pity wondering why I’m stressing over anything.
If they don’t want to do something they simply don’t. Ever try to move a dog out of a comfy spot? They become dead weight, and I don’t care how little they are, they are almost impossible to move – it is their magic power.
But they don’t stress over explaining why they don’t want to do something, they just don’t do it.
They don’t look at the others in the pack as though trying to get approval, they don’t care, they are completely happy self-absorbed furry creatures.
To them there will always be another ray of sunshine to warm their belly or another stick to chase. They don’t stress over the little things. They know at the end of the day there are lots of tummy rubs and ear scratches coming their way.
We need to be more like dogs.
They hold the key – their other secret power: to be able to say no without guilt.
If you are asked to do something that you don’t want to do by a friend, colleague or loved one normally you feel guilt in even wanting to say no. The urge to have to explain yourself and justify the no is overwhelming.
Not dogs – they just sit their butt down or walk away. Period. No guilt, no explanation, no worries – just no.
Basically their message is simple: I don’t want to.
But those four words are so hard for us to say and say alone. When was the last time you said that? Maybe when you were five and you were probably admonished for it at the time. Because the choice really wasn’t yours at the time.
But now you are a grown up. Hey, I say if you have to take on all the responsibilities, stresses and crap that comes with being a grown up then you have earned the right to say “no” and “I don’t want to”.
Not only that – you have earned the right to leave it at that. You don’t have to justify a damn thing to anyone. That is the thing about choices – they are options. Your decision is just that – yours.
Be a dog today.
Just say no to something or someone that is stressing you out or to something asked of you that you just don’t want to do.
And leave it at that.
If pressed then simply say, “I don’t want to.”
Oh my, the freedom, the exhilaration, the giddiness – the sudden urge to go find a ray of sunshine and soak it all in….
Lisa K. McDonald, CPRW
Certified Professional Resume Writer
Career Polish, Inc.