I am not the most patient person in the world – ok, that is a major understatement, but at least I admit it. I do not know that it is age that is making me better at this or just the multiple examples throughout my lifetime of how being impatient does not normally pay off. So I am a slow learner…but that is another story.
In any major goal that we set for ourselves there comes a point after we set our sights, make a commitment we then ask the question, “Now when is it going to happen?”
As thought the intention and declaration of effort is enough to make things magically appear. I’m not judging, I still do it.
In job searching we may come across a position or two that we are really interested in and we begin the process of courting those companies, key contacts or whomever is connected. It is a process and the wait can be grueling but the most important factor is consistency.
Going after one position full on, head strong for a week then completely backing off is sending a very mixed signal. At first you could be conveying to the hiring manager that you are very eager to secure the position and you are ready to start right now. But then the absolute lack of intention or attention could then communicate that you are a flake who gets distracted easily or that you were never really interested at all.
Your actions communicate your desires and intent. Make sure you are consistent in order that you send the right message.
Two problems with the above scenario – the most obvious is the complete lack of attention demonstrating there is no longer an interest. Do not expect every position to chase you – it might have worked like that in the past but not today.
Remember, job searching and dating are very similar so remember the dating game. If you find a potential partner who is worth it you better make sure you keep yourself front and center in mind because with that partner or the job there is a lot of competition out there and if you don’t step up someone is right behind you that will.
The second problem is coming on too strong. This can raise a red flag in one of three ways: you are scary; you are going to drop off because you came on so strong; or you are too desperate.
Remember in your initial approach you are setting the tone. If you go from 150 mph to 20 not only are you going to give someone whiplash, they probably will not want to get in the car with you again.
Find a happy medium. Treat them with respect, maintain a professional communication and keep it at a consistent pace. You still want to express your interest; however you do not want to scare them or raise a red flag.
Also remember there is a fine line between staying in contact and stalking. Don’t stalk.
Even if the process takes a couple weeks or a couple of months – a consistent, maintained effort will win out in the end. You may become frustrated with the wait but remember you do not always know what is going on in their world. I hate to break it to you but you are not their first priority so sit back, stay consistent and relax.
When the timing is right you will be able to move forward if you have maintained a solid and reliable relationship based on consistent communication.
Lisa K. McDonald, CPRW
Certified Professional Resume Writer
Career Polish, Inc.