I have clients that are motivated by various reasons: some simply want more money no matter the duties and others want to a new position where they feel they can contribute no matter if it comes at a salary cut.
There is no right answer in figuring out what your motivation is: it is a personal thing so therefore there cannot be a “wrong”.
Do what works for you and don’t apologize for it.
Sometimes my clients feel embarrassed to tell me their motivations. They hem and haw and work around it afraid to say it out loud. I’m good enough that I can normally figure it out pretty quickly and then bring it out in the open.
That’s when I coach on not apologizing for what you want and why you want it.
When someone makes you feel like you should apologize for your motivations that is on them – not you. You want more money – ok then. If someone tries to make you feel bad for that perhaps they are secretly upset because they do not have the opportunity or gumption to go make more money themselves.
That’s their problem – not yours.
Ladies I am going to talk to you directly for just a moment – because we are the worst. Why feel bad if you want more money, more prestige, a bigger office, a better title – whatever it is go for it! Don’t let someone make you feel less for wanting more. That’s like dating the guy who “isn’t ready for a relationship so can’t we just keep it this way” and when you say no, you want more he tries to make you feel bad about it. What are you going to do – stay in a relationship where you are not valued or respected just so he can go play around or not have to man up? Just because we are the caretakers of the tiny humans and the world does not mean we do not deserve exactly what we want! Dump the fool. He’s not smart enough to realize the jewel standing in front of him – clear him out and go get that bigger office!
Ok gents – we are out of girl-world now.
Sometimes our motivations keep us from going after what we want. Fear. It’s a biggie. It can be afraid of failure, afraid of rejection, afraid this job will end up stinking like the last one – whatever the case it prevents us from moving forward.
A little fear is not a bad thing, it helps us keep things in check. But if the fear has gotten to the point that you either do not move forward or you start sabotaging yourself. You start slacking at work, take unnecessary risks or just plain behave badly. These acts are normally motivated by fear.
Still no need to apologize; but don’t let it control you. Fear is an emotion, a feeling, a thought – and you can control your thoughts and emotions. You replace them with positive action and that builds confidence.
It is imperative to identify your motivation. Once you figure that out then you can begin taking concrete actions to either move beyond the fear or continue to make progress on your goals. Motivation is the key that can unlock any door or keep you locked inside – what you do with that key is up to you.
Lisa K. McDonald, CPRW
Certified Professional Resume Writer
Career Polish, Inc.