- I’m not really a follow the crowd kinda girl so making lofty goals on the exact same date as over half of the population because of a specific date does not appeal to me
- I have determined that resolutions that are made on New Years tend to be quite lofty and often several at one time; which tend to lend themselves to being viewed as unobtainable after the first few weeks (this I attribute to the festive atmosphere and too much campaign)
- Life is too fluid and ever changing and I believe my goals, ambitions and resolutions should reflect that or I will be left behind!
I concentrated more this year on how I was ringing in the New Year rather than setting the stage for the whole thing. I traveled through snow, ice and treacherous drivers to spend New Year’s Eve and a couple extra days with my best friend.
What better way to welcome in a new year than with your best friend!
Of course the conversation came up about things we would like to accomplish this year. Of course there are the common healthy lifestyle in eating better, working out – to which we toasted on those and got back to other thoughts. Spending more quality time with family, concentrating on our businesses and how we can better serve others and scheduling regular best friend weekends.
When we started to really look at these things – because we are both over-analyzers and this is why we get along so well – we discovered that we could really break these things down to not how we were going to accomplish them, but rather what was preventing us from doing so now.
We all have goals and ambitions and if they were easy we would already be doing them. It is not that we don’t want to do them but more of something is preventing us from doing them.
That was the “a-ha” moment – that’s when we got really excited and the lists began to form.
What is preventing you from going after what you want? What is your road block?
We discovered it was something which seems very simplistic but is a major factor is our lives: crap.
We have a lot of crap blocking us. Literally.
Looking around my office I see pictures on the floor to be hung, boxes overflowing with items to be reviewed or sorted, dog toys long since past their prime, wires from electronics just waiting to trip someone, file folders haphazardly sitting in a chair….the list goes on. But it can be summarized with one word: crap.
We have to clean up our crap. If your space is clear, your mind is clear and your blocks begin to disappear.
So we made a list – because that is what we do. We wrote out all the rooms in our homes – including garages and outdoor spaces. Then we ranked them. Now here is where we got smart – we didn’t start with the biggest crap issue, oh no, we started with the smallest.
We decided to begin with the rooms that needed the least amount of work in order that they would be more easily conquered and therefore as we continued down our list we would be building a list of successes.
Then we added rules. Again – because that is what we do. There are seven bins for each room: some included trash, donate, personal, business, house, projects and the last one was miscellaneous. I’ll get back to that. And there are no reorganizing, remodeling or redecorating at that time. Just cleaning out clutter period.
The trash bin had rules too – oh yes, and by this time this should not surprise you. If we haven’t used it in 2012 or prior, it has no personal value or it is a “one-day” (i.e. one day I will finish this, one day I will research this etc) then it immediately goes in trash.
The miscellaneous has a purpose. If we could not categorize the item immediately then it goes in miscellaneous. When all the rooms are done and our entire space is clear of clutter then we are to go back to the miscellaneous. We believe we will be in a more clear mind frame to make a proper determination of those items at that time. Odds are most will go to trash.
Now, the plan is once all the clutter is gone then we can go back and redo any room that we choose. Mine will be my office. I already know the way I want it to feel and look. Once the clutter is out then I will be free to recreate this space knowing that I can focus solely on the purpose and feel of the room rather than if I have to worry about if I should keep something or not.
One thing we realize is that when we are cleaning out all that crap (or clutter) than it will also give us a pretty good smack in the face as to what we are holding on to and why. Time to let things go if they do not fall in line with the overall ideals for the year.
Do these things help us bring more quality time to our family, to they help us serve our clients in our highest capacity, do they bring peace or joy to our home, or are they reminders of things long since past?
We still have some goals and ideals for the year, but starting with a fresh slate will help us determine what will really fit in our life, what we are literally removing from our lives and what we are left with are the things that matter the most.
Be kind to your self when setting New Year Resolutions. Think about why you want to achieve the things you want to achieve. Do I really want to eat all healthy all the time? Heck no! I love my Dew, chocolate and pizza – and I am not going to give them up. But I will add the healthier meals more often and that is a good compromise to me.
The goals are about you – so make them for you with out regret, with out guilt and without input from anyone else – it is a new year and it is all about you!
Lisa K. McDonald, CPRW
Certified Professional Resume Writer
Career Polish, Inc.