My brain, on the other hand, is not always on the same page.
My name is Lisa, and I am an over-analyzer.
It is a blessing and a curse. For my business and my clients it is a quality that allows me to add a great deal of value in coaching and writing. For my personal relationships, it is cause for laughter and strange looks followed by, “are you kidding me?”
Welcome to my world.
When I get stuck in a rut or need a positive boost, it is natural for me to think of a positive affirmation or quote to inspire me.
The problem is, when I say things like, “I am going to do this!” that little voice in my head says, “No you are not.”
Then it gives me plenty of cold, hard facts or observations to prove its point. Darn realist.
It is very frustrating. Instead of buying into the affirmation, my head digs its heels in and makes what I am trying to get over worse because I am more focused on the problem by trying to fake my way into believing the positive.
If you understood that last sentence, you get my world.
Here is what I have found that works to hush that voice and gain acceptance and agreement with where I want to go.
I trick it.
I start far away and with statements that I know are true and that my brain will not argue and then lead it to the positive that I want to embrace.
Let’s give an example, something simple: I am working on a tiling project. I am no Bob Villa, but I can do some things around the house ok.
Beginning this project my thought was, “I’m going to rock this tiling”
Brain response was, “No you’re not, you’ve done this once before, really?” My brain is also a bit sarcastic, big surprise.
Time to implement the long way strategy:
I love my house, it is my home. (Brain agrees)
I like working around my house, making it truly my own space. (Brain agrees)
I have completed a lot of projects here. (Brain agrees)
Some of the projects were really challenging. (Brain agrees)
I didn’t know what I was doing when I started, but I was able to get a lot of resources to help me. (Brain agrees)
In the end, I was able to finish them and did them well. (Brain agrees)
When I put down the laminate, I had no idea what I was doing, but with some research and work, it turned out great. (Brain agrees)
Same thing when I built the bookcases, installed the ceiling fans and changed out the lighting in the bathroom and kitchen. (Brain agrees)
Those things all look really good. (Brain agrees)
I did a really good job, I am happy with them. (Brain agrees)
Based on the last tiling I did and the research I have done, this project isn’t nearly as bad as some of the others. (Brain agrees)
I don’t have a time crunch so I can relax when I do this one. (Brain agrees)
I think I can do this job. (Brain agrees)
By this time I have built up enough true (to my brain) statements that are positive and allow me to weave my way to the ultimate confidence or feeling I want to complete my task.
The next time you have a project, event, interview or opportunity and you try to force yourself into a positive head space, try taking the long way and see if your brain doesn’t get on board!