Don’t Use Someone Else’s Stick To Measure Your Yard

My dogs play this game, it is called “I want whatever you have.”


The littlest one is the worst of all.  It makes playtime a juggling act for me.


It begins with me throwing a stick, Luke will go fetch it and then Brutus goes and steals it from him.  Brutus then trots around the yard at what a little bad-buddy he is in being able to “take” the stick away from his big brother.


So I throw another stick for Luke.  It is then when Brutus decides he wants that stick.  So he drops the one he has in his mouth and immediately goes after Luke to steal stick number two.


During all of this Bandit is watching and waiting.  He doesn’t chase sticks, but like to jump for them.  So while the other two are playing chase I hold up a third stick for Bandit for him to grab and then lay down and immediately start to destroy.


At this point the little one has realized another stick is in play and he rushes over to take that stick away.  I then pick up stick one hold it up for Bandit to leap for and then throw stick two for Luke to chase and the game begins all over again.


Maybe it was just something with sticks.




I tested a theory today with empty small plastic Dew bottles.  I had three identical bottles and gave each boy one today before letting them loose in the yard.  Luke immediately ran out to the yard with his and Bandit ran up the stairs with his.  Brutus held his in his mouth and ran between the upstairs and outside growling the entire time trying to exchange his out for theirs.


Classic “I want what you have” even though it is the same thing.


I see this same thing in job seekers.  It is also called the grass is greener syndrome.


Just because someone else seems much happier in their situation does not mean it is a better situation than yours.  Key work there was “seems”.  You don’t know the whole story – it could be a really good acting job.  Not only that but you could be unfairly judging your situation based upon only part of the story.


If you are feeling a bit down in the dumps after what seems like everyone else in the world is happy in their work life and yours seems to be mediocre – try changing your perspective.  Take a realistic look at what you are and find the things to appreciate.


I remember eons ago when I was married talking to some friends about our relationships.  Some of their significant others did laundry or cooked and others were saying how they wished their own significant other would do the same.  Grass is greener type thing.


When they asked me if my husband at the time did laundry or cooked I said no and it was fine with me.  They looked at me like I had three heads.


I explained that he is a great cook and fully capable of doing laundry; however I prefer not to have my delicates in the same wash as his uniforms and I enjoyed cooking.  Besides, he took care of all the yard work, house maintenance and did a lot of the heavy lifting so I felt it was a fair trade.


One sarcastically replied that they guessed that meant that I was the little woman barefoot in the kitchen.  To which I said, “Why yes I am – I am little, I am a woman, I do the cooking in the kitchen and I like being barefoot.”  Whatever.  Same practice can be applied to your job.


I was appreciative of what I had, not what I did not, and that made things so much better on my side of the fence.


Try it – you might be amazed that people start using you as the measuring stick.



Lisa K. McDonald, CPRW

Career Coach-Strategist

Certified Professional Resume Writer

Career Polish, Inc.


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