Four Thoughts in Getting Over the “I Don’t Wanna”s

Ever wake up and realize you have a set list of to-dos or even just one item that must be taken care of today but the overwhelming feeling you have is, “I don’t wanna.”  You might actually say this while you stomp your foot and pout.  Go ahead if it makes you feel better.

But it won’t make the responsibility go away.

It has to be done and somehow you must find a way to do it.  Easier said than done, I know.  Trust me, I know.  My dogs have seen this little display by me on more than one occasion.  Every time I do they just give me a look like, “Yeah, ok – can we have a treat now?”

Sometimes forcing yourself to do something you know you have to do is one of the hardest parts of your day.  Here are some options for helping you get through that funk just to get it done.

Weigh the Pros and Cons

If you complete the task the pro is it is done, you can move forward.

So, if you continue to pout and dig your toe in what is the worst case scenario?  Go through the whole experience, from you don’t make the call, they realize you are not interested in the job, they no longer consider you a candidate, they hire someone else, you loose all credibility with the company and face a long stretch of continued job searching and lots of mac-n-cheese in your future.

Make it scary enough that it pulls you through.  Whatever it takes.

Set a Reward

Yes, this may sound silly, but hey, you are the one pouting.  What cures a good pout – a good bribe.  Finish this one task and then you can go to Dairy Queen and reward yourself with a yummy Peanut Buster Parfait.  Whatever.

Déjà Vu

Think back to another time that life just stunk or you were stuck.  Remember how you pulled through and accomplished a task.  Remind yourself of your successes and how it started with one little step.  Pat yourself on the back and use these to fuel you forward.

Call a Friend

Not just any friend – call the friend that will listen empathically then give you a good kick in the butt.  When I get in my funks I call my best friend.  She does the appropriate sympathy noises and monosyllables as she listens to my tale.  Then she tells me to get over it and just do what I need to do because I am being a big baby.  Then she puts me in best friend time-out: she will introduce a new topic and then tell me that she won’t get to the good part until after I have finished what I need to.  Basically I am not allowed to call her until I am done.  She’s evil but she is good.

There are plenty of times that we just want to stop being a responsible grown up and say, “I don’t wanna!”  Have your moment but then realize, in not completing this task the only one you are hurting is you.

Suck it up cupcake, tomorrow is a new day.  Get through this task, enjoy your ice cream and give your best friend a call to celebrate your little victory.

Lisa K. McDonald, CPRW

Career Coach-Strategist

Certified Professional Resume Writer

Career Polish, Inc.

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