I Should Have Never Accepted This Job – Now What?

Have you ever accepted a position then shortly after you started realize you made a mistake?  A big mistake.


Now what?  How long do you stay, how do you explain this to your friends and family and for goodness sakes how do you get out of this?


Before you do anything make sure it is really a mistake and not just a bad day or project run.  Go back to the reasons you took the job and what you were told about it and see how much aligns with what you were told.


Is it a big discrepancy or minor inconveniences?  For example if they told you that you would have an office and you are stuck in a cube for a short time period because of remodeling then suck it up.


If, on the other hand, their values, goals and objectives are in complete conflict with yours and what you were originally told then yes, you have a problem.  Be thankful you found out early.


Sometimes it takes a bit for these things to rear their ugly heads.  Remember, dating and job searching is very similar.  Starting a new job you are still in the fun stage – you both like each other and the little things are “cute”.  This can go on for so long.


Then you realize their cute little tendencies are just plain annoying.  Their values do not align with yours and you are starting to see actions supporting this.  If you are to be the lead on the project yet are being given the grunt work and reporting to everyone else that really isn’t a leadership role now is it?  They are supposed to be dating you exclusively yet they are passing out their number at bars – not so monogamous huh?


So you have determined you have got to go.  There are a couple of options here.  In dating I would say run, now, run fast and don’t look back.  Put that sucker in the past and leave them there.


But if you have gone through a long run of unemployment it may not be that easy.  You need the money and your resume needs to show more current employment.


Look to see if there is any value that you can gain from this position.  Is there any new skill you can learn, any new technology, any training?  Sometimes you have to make the most out of it while you go back to pursuing other options.  It is okay, we have all done it.


If the job is completely unbearable than you have to remember the most important factor in the entire job search and employment – you.


You cannot risk your mental, physical or emotional health at the expense of a paycheck or pride.


Yes, there will be repercussions; however you can handle them.


For friends, family and prospective new employers can all be told the same thing; yes all.  You do not want to bad mouth any company to friends and family because you do not know who they know or might run their mouth to and that could come back and bite you in the arse.  Keep it professional.


You will need to construct your response as it applies to your situation; however it can be in the general theme of you having a very high standard for yourself and providing customer service/expertise etc. and although it was a good company your goals did not align.  You can also include that you felt it best that they utilize their resources for someone that is perhaps at a more entry level in their career which would be a better fit.


The point is you put a positive spin on it, let go of any nagging doubt, fear or anger and get right back out there.


If there was another job that you passed up for this slacker one, then take the opportunity to go back and reconnect.  Go back to your networks and just keep moving forward.  This has been a lesson; gain the most from it so you can take an even bigger leap forward.



Lisa K. McDonald, CPRW

Career Coach-Strategist

Certified Professional Resume Writer

Career Polish, Inc.

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