If You Can Open One Door You Can Open Another

cracked doorI actually said this to Bandit, one of my dogs, this morning.


When he wants to go outside he has no problem opening the back door with a paw and sprinting out to save the world from lost bunnies or stray birds.


But he continually locks himself in my bedroom.  Not literally, the door closes enough where there is about an inch between the door itself and the door jam.  This incredibly intelligent dog is then stumped as to how to get out.  This is also the dog that I had to put a lock on his cage because he can open the normal latches in a heartbeat.


But he whines, scratches on the door then sits and waits.


When I approach the door I can see him through the space and he looks back just sitting there waiting patiently for me to open the door.


A door that is lighter than the one to the great outdoors.


But there he sits.


A lot of us do the same thing.  We sit behind a door that we can easily open and wait for someone to open it for us.  We can manage to get through barriers and locks and steel-plated doors but those hollow core lightweight doors just stump us.


Normally when we have opened the other doors we were either forced to do so or incredibly driven.  After the fact we almost make apologies for doing so, saying it was a one time event and we couldn’t possibly do it again.


You got through a nasty divorce, a devastating job loss or any other terrible event in your past.  You pushed door or scratched it open that door to move forward and simply survive at the time.  You did that.


But now when the situation isn’t so dire (as in invading bunnies aren’t threatening your backyard) you can’t seem to muster the courage, strength or confidence to open this one.  You get stuck.


The heavy door wasn’t a fluke – it was a lesson.


The current door isn’t a dire emergency but a quiz on what you learned during your lesson.  You can open that door, you can move on, you can get your job searching on track and move forward without the dire elements to force you to do so.


It is called choice.


When it is an emergency we have to; when it is an occurrence we choose to – or not.


So often we have more power than we choose to believe because power means responsibility.  Responsibility to ourselves and taking actions that will culminate into results.  Then we cannot blame a dire situation, but we have to take accountability.


And what if our actions are “wrong” then we have no one to blame but ourselves and we might end up looking foolish.


What some call foolish I call brave.  You can run and hide and make excuses or you can just step forward and do something.  That takes bravery and that is not foolish.


Foolish is sitting back looking through a crack in the door waiting for someone to open it for you.



Lisa K. McDonald, CPRW

Career Coach-Strategist

Certified Professional Resume Writer

Career Polish, Inc.



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