It Is What You Decide To Make It

My security detail!

I had lunch with a friend of a week or so ago and we were talking about security.  Specifically home security as I am a single gal.  He said I should get a gun – I told him I have dogs.

It’s not that I am afraid of guns, or against guns or really have any opinion of guns one way or another – I just don’t want a gun.  I grew up with them and I’m a decent shot but I have a dog that can open a pantry and oven despite the child locks, empty out cabinets, remove pots and pans, use the handles to open dressers and remove items and unlock cages – do I really want to take a chance that he wouldn’t find the gun and learn to use it?  I think not.

Looking back at the conversation I can appreciate that he was concerned about my safety; although I do not look at it the same way – because I choose not to.

Sometimes I have clients that are struggling with one of two things: either they do not know exactly what they want to do next or they are frustrated that they cannot get to the next level right now.  This struggle and frustration causes them to be even more anxious about their current and immediate situation, which in turn can cause all sorts of unkind emotions and thoughts and end up making them miserable.

First of all Slow Down!  I found a great quote today from Charlie Brown: “In the book of life, the answers aren’t in the back.”  Who said you had to have all the answers right now?  Cut yourself some slack for crying out loud.  Sometimes it is more important that you have reached the conclusion that you are ready to move on even if you are not sure what you are moving on to.  That’s a huge step so let yourself rest on it for a minute.

Now, take a deep breath.  Let’s also keep in mind that rarely do we reach our goals by one short straight shot.  It is normally a long, twisty, topsy-turvy road that we must hike, fall, get up and continue to navigate before we reach where we want to go.  This is the important part – the entire journey.

I can look back over the past 20 years and see the road I took to get here and my goodness, my road map looks like a three year old hyped on sugar was given a box of crayons and told to go to town – but I am grateful for every twist and turn.

The real lessons are in the adversities, the pit stops, the points of what we thought were rest on our ultimate journey.  The sucky jobs that you have to take to get to where you want – there is a reason.  But the decision to get something out of these lessons is yours.  Where you are will either help or hinder you but that depends on what you decide to make of it.

Trust me, I have had some crap jobs, terrible bosses, unpleasant co-workers and got to the point that I dreaded walking into work.  I can look back now and see the value – I only wish 20 years ago I was smart enough to look for them at the time.

You may not be in the job you want or the career path that you desire but at some point you have to take some control of this.  Perhaps it is not possible to make a move at this moment – alrighty then, no judgment there.

But this is exactly when you must make a critical decision – to make the most of what you have right now.

What can this job teach you, what opportunities are here – right here and now – that you can learn from to grow and move on?  There is something – there is always something that you can find that is a positive.  I don’t care if it is that the only positive thing you can think of is you get a paycheck.  Hey – you are providing for yourself and your family.

If you work with difficult co-workers or the boss from hell put them aside for the moment, let’s ignore the obvious that it is helping you learn to deal with difficult personalities and testing your patience.

What is in the environment besides the people?  What is in the work?  Perhaps the clients you serve are the business people whom you want to one day work with or manage.  So take a look at how they operate, how do they conduct their business, find clients, manage their practice, hire and train, what steps did they take to get to where they are?  You have the opportunity to learn from the school of life while you get paid to work with buttheads.

Maybe the business you work for is something that you ultimately want to do yourself.  If your current job is on the brink of unbearable stop and turn it into a case study.  What are they doing that is working, what would you do different and why?  Make it a case study of what to do and what not to do.

Sometimes a job is just something to help you get by – and that is fine, as long as you are taking care of your family that is first and foremost.  Sometimes we have to take a step back to move forward.  If this is the case then don’t beat yourself up over it.  If you make it a mindset to accept it as a temporary thing and start thinking about how to make that next step then your current situation becomes much more manageable.

Make sure your goals and dreams are your own, and not being modeled after anyone else.  Only you know what is going to make you truly happy so forget what anyone else defines as happiness and learn to love what you have right now and strive only for things that will add value and improve your happiness.  In other words – to hell with everyone else.

If your job isn’t glamorous and maybe mundane but it is secure, has good insurance and a decent check while it provides you the opportunity to have your own time to spend with family and friends then I would say it sounds like a keeper.  Which is more important – a glamorous job or that time you have with family and friends?

It is your priorities and perspective which defines a good job – step back and do a gut check on what you are deciding to make of it.  It could be that your happiness is right there in front of you all along but only until you decide to see it will it reveal itself.


Lisa K. McDonald, CPRW

Career Coach-Strategist

Certified Professional Resume Writer

Career Polish, Inc.


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