Knowing What You Don’t Want Is A Good Start

I had coffee with my friend Christine today – which is always a wonderful experience, you never know what direction we are going to go on our conversations. Today was no different and during the middle of our talk she looked at me and said, “I know what you don’t want, but what do you want?” like it was a bad thing.

I don’t think it is a bad thing at all, as a matter of fact, I think it is better this way. As I explained to her, I would rather know what I don’t want so that way I am more open to opportunities that come along. Think about it, if you have a list, whatever kind of list, for things that you want and something comes along that doesn’t make the grade of your list you would pass on it. But what if it was a great opportunity?

I would rather know the things that I will not accept so I can at least consider something when it presents itself rather than go through a check list and say, “Oh, gee, it only got seven out of ten checks – sorry, no can do.”

I tell my clients that are in transition who want to do something different but aren’t quite sure what that might be to start with a list of not happenings. Things they definitely would not want to do, that way it leaves them much more open to new adventures. Besides, if they knew what they wanted they would not have a need for a list at all, right?

It is okay to be unclear of exactly what you want as long as you are very clear on what you do not. Setting those boundaries actually empowers you to be bold and try new things. It also helps keep you open to things that perhaps a couple of months ago you would have never given consideration to, but now as you are ready for a new adventure, now you can say, “Why not?!”

Lisa K. McDonald, CPRW
Transition Strategist
Certified Professional Resume Writer
Career Polish, Inc.

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