Reality Not Matching Up – Stop Trying To Fix It.

Do you ever find yourself in a situation and you have it all planned out in your head how something is going to go and then reality turns out to be much different?


You think to yourself, “That was so much better in my head.”


Then you begin to think to yourself, “What am I doing here in the first place?”


Then perhaps you begin to think, “Maybe I’m talking to myself way too much.”


Never mind that last part, the point is sometimes we anticipate something and it just does not meet up to our expectations or hopes in any way, shape or form which leaves us completely deflated.


But was it the specific event was disappointing or was it that the entire situation has been disappointing but you just never wanted to see it that way?


Sometimes we take a dream job – it sounded great, they offered everything you wanted, they seemed to be a great match.  But then you started and what they sold you on is completely different than what you walked into.


So you start seeing how things can be better – how you can make things match up to what you were told or anticipated with what is right in front of you.


Not going to happen.


Look at the signs with the blinders off.  It is what it is and sometimes there is just no way that you can make it better.  Quite frankly – do you want to?


I mean how much work is going to be involved in making it the right job that you were sold on in the first place?  And is it going to be worth it?


It’s like dating a guy that says, “I’m really bad at relationships – I don’t want to be in one.”




Run now.


Believe him and don’t make it your mission to “prove him wrong” or be the “one” that changes his mind.


Make it your mission to find a job and be with someone whose actions support their words – in a good way.


Fix a tire, a leaky faucet, a hole in the wall or even your hair for crying out loud, but don’t fix a new job or a man.


There may be some growing pains getting adjusted to the new job but the overall feel should be that it is the right fit.  If you were promised Derek Morgan and you got Urkel – that isn’t growing pains, that is false advertising.  Get back to looking.



Lisa K. McDonald, CPRW

Career Coach-Strategist

Certified Professional Resume Writer

Career Polish, Inc.


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