I’ve always found there to be great symmetry between job searching and dating. Actually, I think dating would be a lot easier – or quicker decision making – if you just handed the person your life resume and cut to the chase.
The two processes really are similar, so is the anxiety. When you are going through the interview process and wondering about every little thing, like you’re completely exposed and vulnerable. Like that terrible dream where you’re naked in front of you high school or college class.
Oh, and the rejection – let’s not forget about that. The friend zone. We really like you, just not for this job. Even better, the ghosting and catfishing! It just gets better and better!
A lot of those decisions and actions taken by a potential employer you have no control over – and most don’t even have anything to do with you. But this doesn’t mean that you are powerless here.
Your best weapons are your power of observation and intuition.
One point that I want you to especially pay attention to is the courting phase, i.e. interviewing. Like a client of mine who was just given the phone screen questions (literally labeled this) to complete and email back to the internal recruiter.
Here’s the thing, if a company isn’t very nice or respectful to you during the interview phase, what do you think they are going to be like if you take the job?
Think about it – the interview phase is when everyone is trying their best to get the other party to like them. You and them. So if a company is treating you poorly, how much worse will it be when you join?
If they are going to require you to complete a 10-page document with detailed questions – but not read it and make you repeat everything you wrote during a 15 minute follow up call, well, that’s just rude. They are being disrespectful, dishonoring your time and those actions scream out that their time is way more valuable than yours. Is that the kind of environment you want to be in every working day?
What about the company that gives veiled threats to pressure you to hurry up and answer or return information only to ghost you for weeks with a response or what’s next?
Some companies treat you as though you should be thanking them for talking to you. Really?
If you are going through the process and you’re getting the ick feeling in your stomach, listen to it. If something feels off, it very well could be. At this point, remind yourself that this is a two-way process. You want to make sure this is a good fit for you.
And, I know there are some people out there that are just not great at interviewing or following up. If you are interacting with a few people and all are great except that one – then you need to take a step back. Look at the situation – is that one person just a bit of a ding-a-ling? Are you going to report to them? Do they really reflect the organization or team as a whole?
But if it is a vibe or treatment from everyone you interact with or really strong from one person you’re dealing with, nope.
If their courting (interviewing process) is disrespectful, the marriage (working for them) is probably going to be miserable.
Run, baby, run. There are more fish in the sea and you deserve better than Charlie Tuna.
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All opinions and views expressed in this article are my own, unless attributed. They’re normally pretty spot-on (because I’m obsessive about career topics and communications). The humor sprinkled in is Mr. B approved, my dog who thinks I’m hilarious (and not because I’m his meal ticket).