Embrace your Inner Dorkness!

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I am a dork, a geek, a total misfit.  I’m that girl that laughs when the entire room is quite because something just popped in my head that I thought was funny.  It might have been from a week ago or just getting the joke from the hour before, it doesn’t matter.  I’m the dork that laughs.

 

Oh sure, I can dress up as Professional Barbie, but what you don’t know is I am the dork that when I did my manicure I accidently gelled a dog hair in the nail polish but didn’t notice it until right before I am about to shake your hand.  Can you see it in the picture?

 

I trip going up the stairs, I trip on invisible objects then turn around to get mad at them.  When stressed I dance it out and have been caught by more than one neighbor be-bopping around to music from my headphones. 

 

I sing in my car and get stares from other drivers, I stop and bet dogs – any dog any time I don’t care where I am or what I am wearing or what I am doing.  I pet dogs.  I make weird baby noises to infants and play games with toddlers.  I make a complete fool of myself to the embarrassment of my 21 year old son in a crowded elevator.

 

I am a dork.  I am okay with it.  We all are to some degree.  No one is perfect and the inner geekness or dorkness is a great quality to embrace.  It helps us keep our humor, sanity and get perspective.

 

I have dork moments when I give seminars, talks and seminars.  You better believe I completely own them.  Sure it is not comfortable, but I do it anyway.  I also encourage my clients to adopt the same mentality and strategy when interviewing.

 

You are going to mess up something.  Let’s just be frank here, or Shirley, or John (sorry, dork moment thinking about Airplane); odds are you are going to flub a little something during the interview.  You are nervous, you want the job and you have set extremely high expectations for yourself.

 

If that is not calling out to the universe to give you a flub I don’t know what is.

 

So when it happens, relax.  You are human, so are they.

 

Maybe they ask you a question and you go off on some tangent.  Oops.  Hey, we have all been there.  Simply stop, take a breath and own it.  Tell the interviewer that you apologize; somehow you got off track and have no idea how, but you would like to get back to the original point.  Then do so and shut up.

 

Look, if you do not beat yourself up in front of them and make light of it then they will not make it the feature of the interview.  If you do freak out that is how they will remember you.  The guy/girl that messed up a little then completely freaked out, sweated through their business suit and got a bad case of verbal diarrhea.  They will be completely uncomfortable.  You will be the pity interview.  Not really the impression you want to leave with.

 

Instead be human, make it a non-issue, make light of it so they are more comfortable and get back on point.    

 

Let them remember you as someone who is human, professional and able to make a room comfortable while selling yourself as the ideal candidate. 

 

Be the dork, it feels so good!

 

Lisa K. McDonald, CPRW

Brand Strategist & Career Coach

Certified Professional Resume Writer

www.CareerPolish.com

 

Give Them a Chance to Make it Right.

I really hate being a woman taking my car to a mechanic. My dad was a diesel mechanic so I know that I am completely out of my league. And they know it too. When I was married we used to play this game, Jeff would tell me what was wrong with the car then have me go to different places, by myself, to see what they would tell me. Amazing the results.

Last week I took my car and my son’s car to one place and the estimate seemed very high, so I called my mom and asked her to talk to her mechanic. She has a wonderful business relationship with him and trusts him. He quoted me a price on my car and we took both up there the next day. Unfortunately the owner (her trusted advisor and mechanic) was not in and what we experienced was not pleasant to say the least. Just a small bit to give you an appreciation: my quote jumped over double what he had told me and in the end landed somewhere in the middle. It just got worse from there.

Once I rescued the cars I told my mom about the entire experience. The owner was out until today but she assured me that her husband was going to go talk to him. The irony that it is the husband going did not escape me, but I let it go. Anyway, she apologized several times and I told her that it was not on her or the owner, but those that were there at the time.

The owner was told of the situation and he was appalled at our treatment and is making every effort to make it right. It may take a bit of time to unwind everything that happened, but I am confident that it will be done.

My point is this: I could have blasted this company for what happened to me without giving the owner the opportunity to make it right or even know what happened. But that, in my mind, is not fair. I feel that he should have the opportunity to make it right and how can he do that without knowing about it? Mistakes are made, wrong paths are chosen, errors in judgment happen – people are human. It was worth it to me to give this man the opportunity to correct the situation because my mom thought so highly of him and this had not happened before. It was worth it to me to cool my jets a few days and give us both the opportunity to know the whole story in order to move forward.

Whether it be in business or professional relationships, mistakes happen. If the relationship is of value to you, give the other person the opportunity to make it right. Listen, communicate in an adult manner your issues and “side” and then have an open mind in letting them make it right. If you are the one that made the mistake, swallow your pride and fear and own up to it. If the relationship is important to you know what you are willing to do to make it right and then do it. Sometimes when we screw up we are afraid that people will be mad at us and not want to talk to us or even give us the opportunity to explain ourselves. But the key concept here is if the relationship is important to you. If it is, then step up, no matter what side you are on. If you were wronged keep in mind that there is probably a time or two that you made a mistake and it inadvertently wronged someone else. What’s the saying: “To err is human, to forgive is divine”…

Lisa K. McDonald, CPRW
Career Polish, Inc.
www.CareerPolish.com