Careful What You Wish For…

I saw a quote the other day that I absolutely loved, “Never stop learning because life never stops teaching.”


I find that there are lessons every day, if we are paying attention.  Sometimes it is our job to learn, sometimes to teach.  My boys are rarely thrilled when they are the recipients of the lesson and I am the teacher.  The dogs, on the other hand, seem perfectly fine with it.


As I was fixing a morning snack of crunchy peanut butter on toast, I had three sets of eyes glued on me.  Three cold little noses trying to sneak a sniff of the peanut butter as it was melting on the toast.  They really wanted that peanut butter.  I do not particularly care for noses near my food.


So I took out a piece of bread and spread the peanut butter on it and tore it into three pieces.  You would think I was rewarding their behavior, but hang in there with me.  As I gave each one their piece, at the last second I popped the peanut butter side to the roof of their mouth.


They got the peanut butter they wanted along with a lot of head tilting, tongue lashing and confused looks. 


And yes, I said it out loud, “Careful what you wish for.”


My puppies are adorable, sweet and a fountain of unending unconditional love; they also aren’t thinkers. 


They want something, they go after it, consequences be damned.  They do not have the same thought processes we do, or they have really bad memories.  I can attempt to explain consequences or ask them if they have thought this through; but they rarely answer.


As a Career Coach, I hear people frustrated with where they are often stating they want something completely different.  I’m good with that and fully encouraging of doing what you love to do.  I think it is great.  I just find myself in the role of devil’s advocate.


Have you thought this through?


Changing careers can seem like an easy fix or the one thing that will solve all your problems; but are you sure?  What will it take to get into the new career?  What skills are necessary?  What is going to be expected of you?  What is the negative side of where you want to go?  How long is it going to take you to achieve the level of success you desire?


That whole grass looks greener on the other side thing.


Before you start getting jealous of your neighbor’s yard, take a step back and see what it takes to get there.  Seeding, fertilizing, watering, cutting, mulching, trimming – it takes a lot of work to get it to look that nice.  You may just be seeing the end result of a LOT of work, time and money.  Once you get it to that stage, yes, it looks easy.


If you are not willing to commit to taking care of the grass, don’t wish for the perfect lawn. 


I am normally a stanch advocate for looking for the positive; however in this case, I am advocating for looking at the negative.  This will help you be fully prepared for what you want.  You will have a better understanding of the sacrifices that are required to get to that utopia.


What you might just find out is that your lawn looks pretty darn good.  Redirect your energy just a bit and it can become the lawn you wish for without having to start all over again.



Lisa K. McDonald, CPRW

Brand Strategist & Career Coach

Certified Professional Resume Writer


Attention: Focus, Action or Both?

I posted a quote this morning that really resonated with me, and seems to be resonating with others as well:


 “Even if you’re on the right track, you’ll still get run over if you just sit there.” ~ Will Rogers.


I have been sitting on the tracks and been very frustrated because I am not seeing the results that I want.  It has made me quite grumpy.


I am a big fan of Bob Procter says and I heard him say what you give interest, attention and expectation to you will receive.  This makes sense to me.  I am following this thought. 


So what is the deal?


I’m giving it interest by setting the goals; I am giving them interest by being focused on them and I am expecting them to happen. 


So what’s the hold up?


I have even asked this out-loud in a very frustrated way to no one in particular but any higher power that was listening. 


Then I saw the quote.


Oh damn.  An ah-ha moment and it is on me.


It is the attention.  I was screwing that part up.  I was translating it incorrectly.  Yes, focusing on your goals is giving them attention but it is a pebble on the mountain of importance.  The real key is attention by action.


I can focus on something all I want but guess what – it is not going to change until I get off my butt and stop staring at it and do something about it.


Sometimes I have a client that we have worked through the process of creating a resume and they have all the tools they need to move forward:  they  know what their value is and they know how to communicate it and yet they have not moved forward.


In the course of a follow up conversation, I discover that the missing element is the action.  You have to network with people to tell them your value; you have to go after positions to give them your resume and open doors.  You have to take action.  Without it, your awesome tools are just keeping you company rather than working for you.


What is it you want?  Define it and see yourself in that role.  Then prepare yourself by getting all the tools you need to get there.  Further prepare yourself by seeing yourself in that role.  Now to make it full circle and actually get there determine what action you need to take and do it.


Not all action will be successful or correct; however it is action and it will take you one step closer to getting where you want to be.  Even if it is wrong, even if it is does not result in immediate results; any action is propelling you along your path. 


If you are not moving then you are sitting still; and if you are sitting still you are more than likely to get run over.


Lisa K McDonald, CPRW

Career Coach & Brand Strategist

Certified Professional Resume Writer