I’m a Quitter

I will admit it; I have quit at many things over my lifetime.  I’m not done, either.  I am a quitter. 


I quit playing Horse with my son the day he could dunk.  That was just no fun anymore, well, it was for him.


I quit in relationships.  When I felt I was having the life sucked out of me, I quit. 


I quit jobs when I outgrew them.


I quit taking myself for granted or putting myself on the bottom of the list.


I quit trying to live up to other’s expectations.


I quit ignoring the little things around me.


I quit beating myself up with my failures.


I quit; over and over again, I quit.  This has led to a much healthier and happier life.


I am proud to say I am a quitter.


My son and I found other interests that we could enjoy together and continued to have great family time.


I was able to allow people who brought value into my life and have healthier relationships.


I learned new skills, grew in my abilities and increased my ability to add value to my clients.


I learned how to say no, take time for myself and grow stronger emotionally, mentally and physically.


I set my own expectations and learned to appreciate the uniqueness of myself.


I learned gratitude for all of the blessings, large and small in my life and the blessings increased and expanded.


I learned that each failure was actually a lesson; an opportunity for growth. 


We have such negative associations with words, isn’t it time that we break those rules?  Stop looking at seemingly negative events and actions as life-ending, catastrophic measures.  Perhaps if we could just change our perspective just a bit we could see that these events and actions are actually positive.


I quit on the things that no longer served me, that held me back from being able to be the best person, friend, mother and professional that I could be.  Those are the things that I quit. 


So yes, I am a quitter, and I am a better person for it.


Lisa K McDonald, CPRW

Career Coach & Brand Strategist

Certified Professional Resume Writer


Too Attached To The Outcome

WorrySometimes we want something so badly that we focus on the ultimate outcome rather than the steps to actually reach that outcome.  Bad idea.


There are other times that we are almost afraid to hope for the thing we want the most so we attach ourselves emotionally to that outcome and completely ignore the things that are happening around us right here right now.  Bad idea.


I’m a planner and an analyzer.  I will admit it.  It is a critical skill as a mother.  You always have to anticipate for your children.  Going to baseball games and wrestling meets I always had the “bag”.


It was full of requirements for any occasion: sunflower seeds and gum for baseball; beef jerky and granola bars for wrestling; band aids; Neosporin; washcloth and baggie; black tape; pencils; sun block (baseball); the boys deodorant (they really stink at wrestling); rain poncho; ace bandages; you name it – it was in the bag.


I never had an occasion where I had to use every item in the bag.  It was for preparation but the tools were only used on an as needed, in the moment basis.


Going after that gig you really want is the same thing.  React on an as needed, appropriate in the moment manner.


Focus too much on how much you really want the job and you may miss an important statement in a follow up interview.  They may be giving you clues on how to further align yourself with the job but you are only wanting to hear the words, “We want to make you an offer” that you miss it.


Wanting that job so badly can also make us start to doubt ourselves.  Maybe you have been excited about another job as much but that one ended badly so your fear starts to warp that excitement and equate it with failure.


It is a different company, a different time, a different opportunity and a different you.


That’s like really liking someone but being afraid to get close because the last time you felt this way about someone it totally blew up in your face.


Different person, different time, different opportunity and a different you.


Do not punish the new person for the behavior of the old one.  Same rule applies for the job, too.


Let go of the emotional attachment and look at right here, right now.  Are you in continual talks with this company – great – what is really being said?  Is it in line with what you want, perfect – go for it.  Let go and just go with it.


If you find yourself overanalyzing each action or statement (and trust me, I get this) just stop.  Let go of the emotional part and look at it as a whole.  They are interested as are you so just let it progress to a natural course of coming together.


I have found that things happen for a reason in their own time in their own way and it is not my job to know the why or try to fix it.  My job is to look at the here and now and what I can do to add value.  If it is meant to be then for crying out loud let it.  Stop getting in your own way and let it happen.



Lisa K. McDonald, CPRW

Career Coach-Strategist

Certified Professional Resume Writer

Career Polish, Inc.