The Ones That Know Us The Best Sometimes Know The Least About What We Do

I had a wonderful day yesterday – I took the day off and spent it with my mom and her one of her best friends.  It was kind of like Thelma & Louise plus one on a much less grand scale – but in our minds we were there.


At one point my mom’s friend said my mom had tried to explain what I do, they know I do resumes, but did not really know what else I do.


I realized I had two opportunities here: one to help educate my mom and family on the entire collaboration of what I do and also here was a blog post!


So often we focus on our sales pitch and networking elevator speeches for friends, contacts and strangers that we forget about those that know us the best – our family.


These are the ones that know us sometimes better than we know ourselves yet we forget to actually talk to them about what we do and what we need to get to the next level.


This is when you have to take off the blinders of family and see them as friends, wanting nothing more than the best for you and really wanting to understand what you want, where you want to go and most importantly how they can help get you there.


Sometimes our family is hesitant about selling us.  I know I have talked to my mom before and she said there was someone at work who’s relative was looking for a job.  I asked if she told them that they were in luck because your daughter is a professional resume writer and she said no.


Okay, seriously mom?!  But then I realized, it might have been awkward for her because not having a full understanding of what I do so she could have felt that she was just bragging on her daughter.


I get that.  And it is on me, not my mom.


So I took the opportunity yesterday to explain to my mom’s friend what I do – in a way that both of them could understand and relay.  Like using the example of using our sense of humor in an interview is probably not a good idea.


This weekend it might be a good idea to take some time when spending time with your family to ask them if they really know what it is you do and if they feel comfortable referring people to you.  You might be surprised by the answer.  Just remember – if they do not know it isn’t their fault, it is on you to communicate your value to all your audiences.  They may love you but they still can’t read your mind.



Lisa K. McDonald, CPRW

Career Coach-Strategist

Certified Professional Resume Writer

Career Polish, Inc.

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